FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) & The Better Option

The Millenial generation is REALLY good at keeping their options open and waiting for the better option, but it is spilling into other generations as well, and I don’t think it is good for any of us.

Think about theses scenes you see frequently (maybe do yourself):

  1. A young couple on a date at a restaurant, who don’t engage each other much in conversation, who rarely make eye contact, and stare at their phones for most of the dinner.
  2. You ask someone if they want to watch a movie or go play pool on Friday night and they get wishy-washy about giving you an answer. They might say something akin to, “text me before you go and I will see if I can go later.”
  3. A relative who has been dating their significant other for 10 years and has no plans to get married, because they want to “keep their options open.”
All of these situations, and many more like them, repeat themselves daily in our culture. Some believe it is the FOMO mentality – the “Fear Of Missing Out”. In other words, there might be a better option out there, so I shouldn’t commit myself to anything right away.
Those that are culture-watchers know this is happening and they play on our vulnerability. Examples:
  • 168,894 different drink combos at Sonic
  • Dating sites that offer hundreds of thousands (or even millions) of different “options” to date others.
  • How many different options are there on a phone now? Not to mention the kinds of phones one might choose.
  • etc.
We have even brought this attitude into faith issues – church shopping, spiritual but not religious, and wanting to choose our own way over God’s way (the universal FOMO).
The problems that come from this attitude are legion and I believe the Devil is highly entertained by this culture of the better option. If we don’t commit to something and stick to it, we don’t commit to anything. If we don’t commit to anything, we live our lives without meaning.
Too often today, we stand paralyzed in making a choice, because there are too many options. We leave our options open, waiting for the better one, but we end up not committing to anything and then the moment passes us by and we seem unsatisfied – afraid we “missed out” on something better.

What a sorry way to live!

Life is meant for us to make a choice, stick with it, and the result is living a better life because of it.

The vows of matrimony include choosing one spouse and only one spouse, until death do us part:

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

Notice there is no backdoor to find a better option down the line. Whatever may happen, this is the choice I make and I stick to it. If we don’t, we are treating others as an thing which we can use as we wish to make us happy = utilitarianism. This mentality is dangerous and unchristian!

Utilitarianism is the philosophy that the best way to live my life is to maximize my happiness and minimize my suffering and this is primarily done by using other people and things to attain my happiness. In other words, it makes people into objects. By constantly keeping your options open with others, by waiting for a better option, by having the fear of missing out – we treat others as objects, not people!

Think about how God chooses to love us. He chooses you and sticks to His choice! It is how He wants us to live our lives too! Make a choice for God and stick to it!

There are a multitude of gods out there we can worship – money, sex, power, fame, etc. One that too many are worshiping today is the god of better options. It promises you won’t miss out. But, it lies.

Choose God. Choose others. Stick to your choice. This is the way of the one true God who chooses you. Faithfulness is never without sacrifice, but it does not leave us unsatisfied.

Even psychology backs this up – Psychologist Barry Schwartz teaches this (WARNING – there are some parts of this video that are somewhat crass, but are used to make a good point):

“Now if you are unwilling to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served in the region beyond the River or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”-Joshua 24:15


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Marcel (679 Posts)

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